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I'm Kelsey Feinstein

MSW, RSW, IFS THERAPIST - LEVEL TWO CERTIFIED 

Hello,

I recognize the place you're in — because I've been there myself.

When I became a mom to three children under three — including twins — everything I thought I knew about myself changed overnight. I lost my professional identity. I couldn't meet my toddler's needs AND my twins' needs AND my own. I felt unseen, joyless, exhausted, and like a complete failure — even though I was giving everything I had.

That experience cracked me open. It activated parts of me I didn't know existed. And it taught me — more than any training ever could — how much we all need a space that is truly, completely ours. A space where we can slow down, turn inward, and actually be heard.

That is what I bring to every single session.

Kelsey Feinstein, Registered Social Worker and Level 2 certified IFS therapist in Toronto, Ontario

My Approach

​​I am a Level 2 certified Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapist based in Toronto, offering virtual therapy across Ontario.

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I don't do band-aid solutions, distractions, or quick fixes. I do deep, meaningful, lasting change. The kind that comes from actually understanding what's happening inside — not just managing it better on the outside.

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I believe that the anxiety, the reactivity, the self-doubt, the exhaustion — these aren't character flaws. They are parts of you that developed to protect you. When we get curious about those parts instead of fighting them, something shifts. Real healing becomes possible.

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I work with:

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Driven, capable adults navigating anxiety, burnout, perfectionism, self-doubt and overwhelm — who appear fine on the outside but feel stuck on the inside.

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New moms/parents, parents of multiples, and caregivers in the thick of the identity shift of parenthood — touched out, depleted, reactive, and longing to feel like themselves again.

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Therapists and helpers who are ready to do their own parts work — through personal IFS therapy and IFS consultation.

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My clients value the meaningful connections we build together — in a space that holds compassion, presence, lightheartedness, humour, and creativity.​

Location of Self Identity

​​A little about who I am, beyond the work. My professional training is only one part of me. The personal parts matter too — they shape how I show up in the room, and you deserve to know them before deciding to work with me. I'm a cisgendered, heterosexual, Jewish-identifying woman, a parent, and I use she/her pronouns. I'm married, able-bodied, and live with my partner, our kids, and our dog. I'm always open to talking about identity and privilege — mine or yours — so if anything here feels important to explore, please reach out.​

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Outside of the Therapy Room

I embody the principles of self leadership outside of the therapy room and am constantly checking in with my system (Parts of myself) throughout the day. Outside of being a mom and a therapist (which are my two main roles) I love to read, learn, listen to music, travel, go to concerts, be with my family and spend time outdoors on canoe trips. I welcome the opportunity to learn a bit about you and your interests. 

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MEEKO

I understand that coming to session can be challenging. Meeko works with me to provide safety, comfort and calm in sessions. If you would like Meeko to join you in your  session please let me know in advance. 

Kelsey Feinstein's dog — IFS therapist and counsellor Toronto

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Developed by Richard Schwartz, IFS focuses on harmonizing a clients internal world by understanding and relating to aspects (Parts) of an individual and accessing ones inner resources and strength, so that individuals can heal. IFS is a transformational therapeutic model that heals deep wounds by respecting the complex nature of the personality system. Through listening and engaging with our inner Parts, IFS supports folks in accessing their inner wisdom, facilitating increased self compassion, and cultivates inner harmony. 

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You may be wondering what the heck are Parts! - well as you have been reading here or speaking to other therapists - you may have noticed a Part of you that dislikes the process, a Part of you that is tired, a Part of you that is eager, a Part that is annoyed, or perhaps a Part that is thinking about work or the kids.

 

Parts are thoughts, feelings, needs, wants, and patterns within our system. We can view Parts of ourselves as separate entities, perspectives, and personalities within our system. Parts show up in many ways and you may hear yourself saying " I did not want to do XYZ but I could not help it" or "Part of me wants X and Part of me wants Y." Getting to know your Parts, through guided self exploration, allows you to gain deeper understanding of yourself, heal, and transform. 

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IFS supports you in relating to yourself differently by focusing inside to get to know your inner world so that you can create lasting change, nurture self compassion, and feel more balance in your inner world.

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What is IFS Therapy?

Select Training, Professional Endeavours,& Certification

  • ​​Level 2| IFSI| Cece Skykes| Compassionate Approaches to Addictive Processes., IFSI Online

  • Senior Staff | IFSCA | 2024 - 2026

  • Support Staff | IFSCA 2022-Present

  • IFS Therapy for Shame and Guilt | Martha Sweezy, IFSCA

  • Advanced Weekend Stepping Deeper |Mel Galbraith, Gustavo De Mello, Robyn Dickson, IFSCA

  • PAing L1 | 875 IFS Training Seagull, IFSI                  

  • IFS Support Staff| Derek Scott, IFSCA

  • Direct Access Workshop| Risa Adams and Elizabeth Parsons

  • Advanced Weekend IFSCA The Others Within Us | Bob Falcner, IFSCA 

  • Level 1 IFS| Jory Agate Fran Booth & Carmen Jimenez-Pride., IFSI, Beverly, MA

  • Internal Family Systems (IFS) Online Circle| Foundations of the IFS Model, IFSI

  • Advanced Weekend IFSCA Introduction to IFIO| Liz Phillips, IFSCA    

  • Advanced  Weekend IFS IFSCA: Deepening your Core Practice | Derek Scott, IFSCA.

  • Advanced Weekend IFS: Healing Pre Verbal Trauma | Colleen West & Derek Scott, IFSCA

  • Treating Complex Trauma with Internal Family Systems (IFS) Intensive Workshop | Frank Anderson, PESI

  • Relational Intelligence 2 Day Training | Francois Le Doze, Self Therapie Formation

  • Stepping Stones IFSCA: 16 week comprehensive IFS Course | IFSCA | Derek Scott

  • Understanding the Foundations of Trauma and Attachment Dysregulation | The Attachment & Trauma Treatment Centre for Healing (ATTCH), Lori Gill

  • Phase-Based Clinical Applications to Promote Healing and Integration of Trauma and Attachment Dysregulation |The Attachment & Trauma Treatment Centre for Healing (ATTCH), Lori Gill,

  • Healing Broken Bonds: Traumatic Attachment and Emotional Dysregulation | The Attachment and Trauma Treatment Centre for Healing (ATTCH), Janina Fisher, Ph.D,

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