Kelsey Feinstein, MSW, RSW

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My Experience & Approach

I have personally struggled with my own mental health which had led me to therapy, so this career path is deeply personal to me. I recognize the place you are in because I have been there myself and understand the stressors that come with moving into adulthood. I also know that healing is possible and am passionate about helping you realize and fulfill your potential. Whatever patterns ( or Parts) are presenting in your system, these are perfectly normal adaptations that your system developed to protect itself from pain and attachment wounds. Once we can help the painful parts heal, the protective adaptations may not be as rigid! Your systems adaptation is a Part of you, it is not all of you!

My approach is empathetic, curious, compassionate, and emotion focused. We will discover together how to reconnect with your innate curiosity, courage, compassion and creativity, allowing you to access your true Self and transform. I believe that you have the resources to heal, but may need some support accessing your inner resources.  We will always work at your pace and with all your Parts permission, to create a space where you can develop your ability to respond to stress and adversity in a confident, calm, and courageous manner. I use an integrative approach to best support you. Some of the approaches I am informed by are: Internal Family Systems, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy,  Emotionally Focused Therapy, Emotion Focused Family Therapy, Mindfulness, & Self Compassion.  

I am a Registered Social Worker and Masters Graduate from Wilfrid Laurier University. I use a client-centered, emotion focused, and trauma informed approach, and will support you in being the driving force behind the change you want to see. My clients value my ability to develop meaningful connections with each of them. I would love the opportunity to truly understand your individual needs and work together to help you meet your goals.

I have a passion for working with adult professionals experiencing difficulties related to depression, anxiety, self-esteem, early attachment disruptions, work-life balance, juggling roles, and navigating through life transitions. Adult professionals are facing particularly difficult situations as they enter the work force and become more independent - particularly if they never experienced a secure safe attachment in early life.

Adults are in a life stage where they are figuring out who they are, navigating relationships, faced with peer pressures and impacted by social media, career changes, and decisions that will impact the future. I have a passion for helping young adults navigate this difficult period, through establishing a secure connection with their system by developing Self Leadership. I believe there is nothing wrong with any of us and we all have the ability to heal the Parts of us that have taken on erroneous beliefs. I can help you access your Self Energy to relate more compassionately to all of your Parts and help you thrive. 

Informing Approaches

Internal Family Systems (IFS)

IFS focuses on harmonizing a clients internal world by understanding and relating to Parts of an individual and accessing Self so that individuals can heal wounded Parts.

You may be wondering what the heck are Parts! - well as you have been reading here or speaking to other therapists - you may have noticed a Part of you that dislikes the process, a Part of you that is tired, a Part of you that is eager, a Part that is annoyed, a Part that is thinking about work or the kids. Parts are thoughts, feelings, needs, wants, and patterns within our system.

 

We can view Parts of ourselves as separate entities, perspectives, and personalities within our system. IFS allows us to get to know our subpersonalities in our system from a Self led place. IFS facilitates an understanding of our system and how each Part of our system is serving us!

 

We often have one Part that wants X (chocolate) and another that says Y ( we should have the salad).

 

IFS is a non-pathologizing model rooted in the assumption that there are No Bad Parts of an individual, rather Parts are sometimes forced into extreme roles due to life experiences. IFS allows us to focus inside ourselves to get to know our inner world so that we can understand behaviors, feelings, patterns, stuck points, and pain areas.  IFS also allows us to heal Parts holding pain from the past which may impact our present presentation.  Once an individual is able to heal their wounded Parts, the system moves into a state of harmony allowing an individual to be more Self-led.

 

IFS supports individuals to respond to Parts in a calm, creative, clear, curious, courageous, compassionate and connected manner. IFS focuses inward to get to know our Parts allowing us to create space to hold and witness the distress that Parts hold. IFS allows for a healing conversation between Self and ones Parts. 

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)

ACT uses acceptance and mindfulness strategies, together with commitment and behavior change strategies to increase your psychological flexibility. It encourages individuals to embrace difficult thoughts, feelings, and sensations rather than avoid them or push them away. ACT encourages folks to move toward their values to create a more meaningful life, while accepting pain and difficult experiences that inevitably goes with it.

Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT)

EFIT explores past and current relationships in order to understand the root sources of an individuals struggles in order to promote healing. EFIT is rooted in attachment theory and focuses on reshaping key emotional experiences that have impacted an individuals sense of self and of others. Through corrective emotional experiences clients are able to shape safety and security with others and within themselves.

Self Compassion 

Self Compassion involves learning to respond to oneself the same way you would respond to others who are suffering. Self compassion encourages individuals to be warm, understanding, and non-judgmental in the face of pain and suffering.  Self Compassion recognizes that being imperfect is inevitable and encourages folks to be gentle with themselves when confronted with painful or difficult experiences.

Emotion Focused Family Therapy (EFFT)

EFFT is rooted in the healing power of caregivers. EFFT supports caregivers to improve their relationship with their loved one, increase cooperation, heal wounds, and respond to strong emotional reactions that a loved one may be having. EFFT also supports caregivers to identify their own thoughts and fears that block their capacity to support their loved one in the way they hope to. EFFT empowers and supports caregivers in mastering skills to better support their loved one. 

Select Continuing Education Training and Certifications

- Advanced IFS: Deepening your Core Practice, Derek Scott, IFSCA.

- Advanced IFS: Healing Preverbal Attachment Trauma, Colleen West, IFSCA 

- Treating Complex Trauma with Internal Family Systems (IFS) 2 Day Intensive Workshop, PESI, Frank Anderson. 

- Relational Intelligence 2 Day Training, Self Therapie Formation, Francois Le Doze.

- Level 1 : Fundamentals of Cognitive Behavior Therapy, Wilfird Laurier University, Sarah Gross.  

- Stepping Stone: 16 week comprehensive IFS Course, Derek Scott, IFCA 

- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Immersion Certificate, Dr. Steven Hayes Ph.D

- Emotionally Focused Therapy with Individuals (EFIT) Level Two, Dr. Leanne Campbell and Dr. Sue Johnson, Campbell and Fairweather Psychology Group.

- Emotion Focused Family Therapy – Core Clinician Training, Mirisse Foroughe Ph.D, Family Psychology Centre.

- Emotionally- Focused Therapy with Individuals (EFIT) Level One, Robert Allan, International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy

- Identifying and Working through Problematic Parenting Patterns in Treatment, Adele Lafrance, Ph.D, SickKids Centre for Community Mental Health.

- Emotion-Focused Family Therapy: Clinician Training, Adele Lafrance, Ph.D, Mission Empowerment.

- Essentials of CBT: The Beck Approach, Judith Beck, Beck Institute for Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.

- Journey to Acceptance and Mindfulness Clinical Competency Certification Program, Timothy Gordon, The Zen Social Worker.

- CBT For Anxiety, Judith Beck, Beck Institute for Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.

- Emotionally Focused Therapy Externship, Robin Williams Blake, Toronto Centre for Emotionally Focused Therapy.

- Understanding the Foundations of Trauma and Attachment Dysregulation, Lori Gill, Certified Trauma Specialist, The Attachment & Trauma Treatment Centre for Healing (ATTCH)  

- Phase-Based Clinical Applications to Promote Healing and Integration of Trauma and Attachment Dysregulation, Lori Gill, Certified Trauma Specialist, The Attachment & Trauma Treatment Centre for Healing (ATTCH)

- Healing Broken Bonds: Traumatic Attachment and Emotional Dysregulation, Janina Fisher, Ph.D, The Attachment and Trauma Treatment Centre for Healing (ATTCH).

- 3 Day Emotion Focused Family Therapy Training – Core, Mirisse Foroughe, Ph.D, Family Psychology Centre.

- Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (Online), Daniel W Smith, Ph.D, Medical University of South Carolina.

Today I'll Choose COURAGE over comfort - Brene Brown 

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Meeko

 

I understand that coming to session can be overwhelming and difficult. Meeko works with me to provide clients with an increased sense of safety in sessions. Meeko provides unconditional love to clients and offers a means of grounding through comfort in sessions. If you would like Meeko to join you in your counselling session please let me know in advance. 

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100 King Street West Suite 5700

Toronto, Ontario, M5X 1C7

 info@kelseyfeinsteincounselling.com  

 Tel: 647 250 7769