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KELSEY FEINSTEIN, MSW, RSW

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MY APPROACH

I have struggled with my own mental health, so this career path is deeply personal to me. I recognize the place you are in because I have been there myself & know that healing is possible. I am passionate about helping you realize and fulfill your potential by restoring leadership, balance, trust and harmony in your system. Whatever patterns are presenting in your system, these may be perfectly normal adaptations that your system developed to protect itself from pain and attachment wounds. I believe that our extreme thoughts and emotions are hard enough to have, however when we try to fight them and push them away this often intensifies the problem or makes life unbearable. I hope to offer you another approach that does not involve band aid solutions, distractions, or quick fixes; but rather involves deep personal healing. If you are reading this you likely have already tried to distract from your 'problem', find a solution to it, or tried to stop thinking about it. However, things keep triggering the 'problem', and perhaps you feel like you are on a roller coaster that never stops. If this is you, then I invite you to learn to relate differently to your inner world. My approach encourages you to learn about why your having specific thoughts, patterns, and emotions, and may support you producing long lasting healing. 

My approach is empathetic, curious & compassionate. I hope to discover together how to reconnect you with your innate courage, clarity, and confidence, allowing you to transform. I trust you, and walk along side you on your healing journey without bringing my own agenda. I work with you as a guide and a facilitator, following your lead and supporting you to tap into whatever is going on for you. We will always work at your pace and with your permission. As a Level One IFS Trained Therapist, I use IFS support you in being the driving force in your own healing journey. 

I am a Registered Social Worker and Masters Graduate from Wilfrid Laurier University. My clients value my ability to develop meaningful connections with each of them by cultivating an intentional space, that embodies companionship, inner peace, and presence, to inspire healing. 

 

I have a passion for working with adult professionals as well as other therapists/helpers experiencing difficulties related to depression, anxiety, self-esteem, early attachment disruptions, work-life balance, juggling roles, parenthood, navigating life transitions, working through stuckness, or just getting to know your own system. Adult professionals are facing particularly difficult situations as they enter a new chapter of life, especially, if they never experienced a secure safe attachment in early life. Helping professionals are faced with additional challenges in their professional roles and it is essential to understand your own therapist/helper Parts that may show up in your work with clients so that you can hold more self energy in the theraputic relationship, which is essential for healing. 

 

I hope to support folks in establishing a secure connection with their system by developing Self Leadership. I would love the opportunity to truly understand your individual needs, and would be honored to walk this journey with you. 

Location of Self Identity: 

Before moving forward in working with me it might be important for you to know a little more about my identity. I believe that my professional experience is only one aspect of me that makes me who I am. There are other personal aspects of who I am that inform the way I practice or limit the way I practice. I see it as important to name personal aspects of myself, as these may be helpful for you to know before choosing to work with me. I am a cisgendered, heterosexual, middle class, Jewish identifying, young parent, who also identifies as female and uses the pronouns she/her. I am able bodied, married, and live with my partner, dog, and son.  I am available to talk about my identity and privleged and I invite folks to reach out and connect further if you would like to discuss anything more regarding this. 

Outside of the Therapy Room:

I embody the principles of self leadership outside of the therapy room and am constantly checking in with my system (Parts of myself) throughout the day. Outside of being a mom and a therapist (which are my two main roles) I love to read, learn, listen to music, travel, go to concerts, be with my family and spend time outdoors on canoe trips. I welcome the opportunity to learn a bit about you and your interests. 

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IFS TRAINED THERAPIST- MY APPROACH

Internal Family Systems (IFS)

IFS focuses on harmonizing a clients internal world by understanding and relating to aspects (Parts) of an individual and accessing ones inner resources and strength, so that individuals can heal. 

You may be wondering what the heck are Parts! - well as you have been reading here or speaking to other therapists - you may have noticed a Part of you that dislikes the process, a Part of you that is tired, a Part of you that is eager, a Part that is annoyed, or perhaps a Part that is thinking about work or the kids. Parts are thoughts, feelings, needs, wants, and patterns within our system. We can view Parts of ourselves as separate entities, perspectives, and personalities within our system. Parts show up in many ways and you may hear yourself saying " I did not want to do XYZ but I could not help it" or " Part of me wants X and Part of me wants Y." Your inner dialogue may often feel very loud... and I can tell you that there is a way to turn down all of that noise in your mind!

 

IFS is a non-pathologizing model rooted in the assumption that there are No Bad Parts of an individual, rather Parts are sometimes forced into extreme roles due to life experiences. IFS supports you in relating to yourself differently so that you can have more agency over your automatic reactions. IFS allows us to focus inside to get to know our inner world so that we can understand behaviors, feelings, patterns, stuck points, and pain areas. IFS treats all aspects of you like inner personalities (Parts) - for example your anger is not all of you it is just a Part of you, and it may have a good reason for being angry if we try to get to know it rather than push it away. If we get curious about each Part of the system we may be able to harness the intrinsic value each Part holds. 

 

IFS also allows us to heal Parts holding pain from the past which may impact our present functioning.  Once an individual is able to heal their wounded Parts, the system moves into a state of harmony allowing an individual to be more Self-led. IFS supports individuals to respond to Parts in a calm, creative, clear, curious, courageous, compassionate, and connected manner.

For more information visit the IFS Instituteor you may find this video informative: What is IFS Therapy? by Dr. Tori Olds

"To better illustrate this idea, let’s use an analogy to human relationships. Let’s think of your anger as one of your children. Suppose you had a son whom you couldn’t control—say he threw tantrums every night. That would be bad enough, but suppose that because those tantrums drove you crazy, you constantly criticized him and tried to keep him locked in his room for fear that he’d embarrass you in public. You stayed home on weekends to make sure he didn’t run away and felt like a terrible parent because of his behavior. Suppose also that all of your reactions just made the tantrums worse because he sensed that you’d like to be rid of him. Because of the way you relate to your son, the problem comes to consume your life. The same is true with our extreme emotions and irrational beliefs—they’re difficult enough, but the way we try to handle them often exacerbates them and makes our lives miserable"

From Schwartz, R.C. (2001). Introduction to the internal family systems model. Oak Park IL: Trailheads Publications, The Center for Self Leadership. Schwartz, R.C. (1995)

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To Know Thyself is the Beginning of Wisdom - Socrates

SELECT TRAINING, PROFESSIONAL ENDEAVOURS AND CERTIFICATIONS

- Senior Staff | IFSCA | 2024 - Present

- Support Staff | IFSCA 2022-Present

- IFS Therapy for Shame and Guilt | Martha Sweezy, IFSCA

Advanced Weekend Stepping Deeper |Mel Galbraith, Gustavo De Mello, Robyn Dickson, IFSCA

- PAing L1 | 875 IFS Training Seagull, IFSI                  

- IFS Support Staff| Derek Scott, IFSCA

- Direct Access Workshop| Risa Adams and Elizabeth Parsons

- Advanced Weekend IFSCA The Others Within Us | Bob Falcner, IFSCA 

- Level 1 IFS| Jory Agate Fran Booth & Carmen Jimenez-Pride., IFSI, Beverly, MA

- Internal Family Systems (IFS) Online Circle| Foundations of the IFS Model, IFSI

- Advanced Weekend IFSCA Introduction to IFIO| Liz Phillips, IFSCA    

- Advanced  Weekend IFS IFSCA: Deepening your Core Practice | Derek Scott, IFSCA.

- Advanced Weekend IFS: Healing Pre Verbal Trauma | Colleen West & Derek Scott, IFSCA

- Treating Complex Trauma with Internal Family Systems (IFS) Intensive Workshop | Frank Anderson, PESI

- Relational Intelligence 2 Day Training | Francois Le Doze, Self Therapie Formation

- Stepping Stones IFSCA: 16 week comprehensive IFS Course | IFSCA | Derek Scott

- Emotionally Focused Therapy with Individuals (EFIT) Level Two | Campbell and Fairweather Psychology Group, Dr. Leanne Campbell and Dr. Sue Johnson

- Emotionally- Focused Therapy with Individuals (EFIT) Level One | International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy, Robert Allan

- Emotionally Focused Therapy Externship, Toronto Centre for Emotionally Focused Therapy, Robin Williams Blake. 

- Understanding the Foundations of Trauma and Attachment Dysregulation | The Attachment & Trauma Treatment Centre for Healing (ATTCH), Lori Gill

- Phase-Based Clinical Applications to Promote Healing and Integration of Trauma and Attachment Dysregulation |The Attachment & Trauma Treatment Centre for Healing (ATTCH), Lori Gill,

- Healing Broken Bonds: Traumatic Attachment and Emotional Dysregulation | The Attachment and Trauma Treatment Centre for Healing (ATTCH), Janina Fisher, Ph.D,

MEEKO

I understand that coming to session can be challenging. Meeko works with me to provide safety, comfort and calm in sessions. If you would like Meeko to join you in your  session please let me know in advance. 

CONTACT

Mon- Fri 10am- 8pm

100 King Street West Suite 5700

Toronto, Ontario, M5X 1C7 

 info@kelseyfeinsteincounselling.com

Tel: 647-250-7769

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